Part 1 – Traits that instantly set you Apart
- Know & understand yourself: Bad boys know & understand themselves. They know what they like & don’t like. They know what they want & don’t want. They aren’t afraid to go after or do whatever their heart desires or whatever is on their mind. (After doing what they want to do) they learn lessons, make mistakes, fail, succeed & ultimately get to know & understand themselves. The best way to get to know & understand yourself is to get out & Start doing what you are afraid of doing by overcoming your fears & live the life you want & learn as much as you can about yourself.
- Strong Sense of self worth: Bad boys know that they are of HIGH VALUE & that’s how they behave. If you think you are of less value, your body language will automatically speaks the same about you.
How do you value yourself more & start feeling that you’re good enough for women?
Appearance: Workout, Eat right, Good Hygiene, Dress well, Good haircut etc.. Pay good attention to your physical appearance.
Handle Emotions: Learn to have better control over your emotions, anxiety, shyness, nervousness etc around women.
Work on your Goals: Women love boys who have goals & working towards their goals.
Get a better Job: Be more efficient & excellent towards the work you do & try to get more payout.
Have a Life: Do try your best to make yourself happy in every walks of your life emotionally, socially, occupationally & financially. Get rid of the person, situation or thing who is causing your happiness.Work on this regularly to value yourself more.
“When you please others or impress others to get their acceptance or validation, You lose your self-worth in the process”
- Set your Standards & Preferences: Bad boys won’t settle for anything less then what they want. They have set standards & preference which needs to be met in any situation. It’s like a Boundary & you will not accept anything outside of this boundary. Your standards & preferences needs to be met in all the cases.
- Be Picky: If you already have set standards & preferences then being Picky will be an Icing on the cake. It will automatically increase your value. Be picky in everything be it clothes, foods, places, women etc.
- Be your MAN: Bad boys don’t care what other guys are thinking, saying & doing. They live their own life, do their own things & truly don’t care what other think or say. They hear from one ear & if it doesn’t what they want to hear, they let it go from another ear. Being your own man means:
Thinking for own self
Have own identity
Not seeking validation of others
Having own style
Not affected by criticism, Judgments and opinions
Being comfortable in own skin
Be happy with who you areBeing your own man doesn’t mean you are idiotically unaware of anything outside of yourself & you know when it is taken too far.
- Be Independent of needing anyone & anything from outside to feel happy & worthy.
- Be Self-Reliant: Bad boys are self-reliant & self capable, and don’t really need anyone to help in life matters.
If there is a problem, they will find a solution.
If they want something, they will get it.
If there is no one around to help, they don’t stay stuck, they find a way to get things done.
- Be somebody others will follow: Bad boys know where they want to go & why they want to go. Don’t work hard to fulfill other’s goals. Set your own goals & work towards them regardless of what others say. If you are becoming a follower, STOP right there and take your life in the direction you want.
- Dominance: “Dominate” yourself first. Everybody has a Childish brain inside which keeps telling us to do what is easy & not what is right. When you want to sleep early to reach your goals, childish brain dominates you & says “Naah, watch some videos & sleep after some time”
When you want to workout, Your childish brain dominates & says “Ohoo.. abhi kal hi toh kiyaa thaa, Aaj nahi karte hai”
When you don’t want to master bate, Your childish brain dominates you & says “Abe chal ek baar kar le, last time”
Dominating yourself first means, Taking control of your childish brain.
We actually don’t realize how much of our decision making process & behavior is “Hijacked” by our childish brain, until we take control back. Because if you are submissive to your childish brain, how will you dominate women’s & other’s?
- Be a “Go-Getter”: Bad boys fearlessly go after what they want instead of sitting & waiting for it to come to them. Be a Go-Getter, Life is very short.
“Ek din ke intezaar me mat baitho, jis din tum apni list shuru kar doge, tumhaara wo ek din aa jayega”
“If they want to talk to a women, They talk”
“If they want her phone number, They ask & get it”
“If they want to kiss, They kiss her”Bad boys don’t ask “If it’s ok” or “Can I” or “May I” questions, They take risks & go after what they want. Bad boys don’t sit & waste time waiting for things to come.
- Never need women or relationship for a better life: Bad boys never need women or relationships. You are not here to make relationships, Just have fun!
- March to the Drum of your own beats: Bad boys don’t like being told what to do & what not to do. Bad boys don’t care being recognized, rewarded or praised – They do what they want & they will praise & reward themselves & never seek anyone’s validation.
- Make your own Rules: Bad boys never follow societal rules & bend rules accordingly which doesn’t hurt anyone if they break it. Bad boys make their own rules:
Accept full responsibility of your life, actions & results.
Never pussy-out on talking to women you’re interested in.
Don’t disrespect yourself.
Don’t be dishonest from yourself.
Never accept less than the best.
Don’t accept disrespect, lies or mistreatment.
Don’t let anyone talk to you like you are child or idiot.
Don’t miss behave anyone
Don’t talk shit about anyone on their back, Do it on their face.
Don’t sacrifice your own principles to get anything done.
- Be Adventurer: Don’t be a couch potato, bad boys think there is no life without fun, thrill & adventure. Go for skydiving, hiking, paint ball, surfing etc
- Be Selfish: Bad boys are Selfish, they give a lot to themselves before others. They will do their things first, satisfy their needs first. “Ek baar baby.. selfish hoke.. apne liye jiyo naa”
- Emotionally Tough: Bad boys are emotionally tough & strong, They don’t cry or whine over little things like girls. If its within their control, they deal with it & If its not within their control, they know that crying over it not going to help. They laugh over every rejection.
- Hard to Impress: Bad boys don’t get impressed too quickly & easily in every situation. If you’re easy to impress, you’re easy to fool. Stop being easily impressed with women’s beauty, appearance, clothes etc.
- Be Mysterious: As soon as women completely figured you out, she will leave you! Being mysterious keeps her interested, attracted & thinking about you. Bad boys don’t talk much about themselves. If you have a bad habit of telling everything, ZIP IT seriously. You don’t have to answer all the question. So instead of talking about yourself, Talk about hilarious movies, YouTube videos, Travel stories, College stories etc
- Opinions are like Assholes: Bad boys keep their opinions with themselves, they don’t share it with the world what’s on their mind unless they are asked for it. Become that man
- Don’t keep showing your “GOOD SIDE”: Bad boys stay natural, they don’t constantly advertise their good side to women & others. Stay neutral & cool.
- Don’t take Shit from Anyone: Bad boys don’t let anyone treat them bad, make joke of them & be abusive of them. Bad boys have defined standards on how they treat themselves & expect others to the same standard. Don’t let anyone do that without letting them know that you’re not OK with the way they are talking to you & treating you. When other’s see they cant treat the way others treat you, they will instantly feel more attraction for you & treat you with same respect.
- Don’t care about other’s opinions: Bad boys don’t care what others think of them. Always remember 25% rule by David Deangelo
when someone doesn’t like you for some reason or has an opinion you don’t agree with, Just remember 25% rule & don’t let it ruin your day.
- Don’t compare yourself with other men: Bad boys don’t compare themselves with others because they know what they are & how different they are. When they meet a women, they know that she has never met anyone like them and if things go right, they are going to take her phone number & take her home. They have deep inner confidence.
- Have a Chill-out: Bad boys don’t take life serious but take it enough seriously. They don’t cry over the situation which is not under their control. Be Calm & Composed & try to find solution to make it better rather than freaking about it.
Part 2 – Treat Yourself Right
- Positive self image: Bad boys always have a Positive self image about themselves. Women will know if you have a positive or negative self image of yourself & how they should treat you. They always have a “Can Do” attitude towards themselves. If you want women to see you in a positive light, start seeing yourself in a more positive light.
- Be aware of your Appearance: Bad boys don’t just wakeup & leave the house. They take good care of their appearance. They look in the mirror, brush, Comb, put cologne & dress well.
- Be in Shape: Bad boys works hard to stay in shape by improving eating habits & working out core muscles like shoulders, chest, abs, biceps, triceps, legs & calves.
- Fix “Personal Problems” ASAP: Address personal problems before it becomes too hard to fix. Like Appearance, Health, Shape, Finance etc.
“A 3 inch snowball becomes a 30 feet massive boulder if it keeps rolling downhill & collecting snow” So fix it ASAP.
- Fix tough situations: Bad boys start taking action & handle bad situations head-on before it becomes too big to handle.
- Self-Respect: Bad boys respect themselves a lot means they are more likely to get the respect they want. Not respecting themselves means not likely to get the respect you want. Men who truly respect themselves are in higher demand & becoming rare, and harder for women to find. When you respect yourself, you don’t allow others to disrespect you, treat you bad or unfair, talk to you that belittle you and you carry yourself with class.
- Change only for YOU: Bad boys change only for themselves. Changing to make somebody happy isn’t in their DNA. If they do make changes, It’s what they want & not what others.
- Your needs come first: Bad boys put their needs first & above all without having to care about their approval & seeking validation. In some cases, put their needs first but in all cases PUT YOUR NEEDS & YOURSELF FIRST.
- Your Happiness comes first: Its logical that if you put her happiness first, she will be happy but women don’t work logically. They get annoyed when boys put their needs & happiness first & consider them desperate & weak because they will never stop testing you, So always in all cases keep your needs & happiness first no matter what.
- Be a Winner: Bad boys always put their best to be the Winner. Second places are for the first Loser. Have competitive spirit, It is very attractive to women.
“You were a born winner but to win, You must plan to win, prepare to win, & expect to win”
- Stand up for yourself: Bad boys stand up for themselves & don’t let anyone including women mistreat, bully, tease & harass them. Nice guys on the other hand take it to keep her but bad boys stand up & not let anyone do it. If she keeps it up, she’s gone. Simple as that.
- I’m Important: Bad boys carry a simple mindset that says, “I’m Important” and others will treat them the same. Walk into a place like you own it & people will treat you the same way. Don’t walk around literally saying “I own it”, have a body language, composure, facial expression & carry yourself that communicates you own it.
- NO dead weight: If someone is keeping you down, making your life worse & constantly taking from you instead of giving, they are dead weight and as a Bad boy, you should take them off from your shoulders to move faster & freely towards your goals.
- Don’t get used: Bad boys don’t get used, if you find out that you’re being used show her the door.
- NO self doubt: Bad boys never doubt themselves & their ability. If you believe you cant make it, you won’t. If you believe you can’t do it, You won’t. bad boys always have “I can do it” attitude. Everything bad boys do is backed by a belief system “I can & will do it”. If you doubt you can attract a women, you won’t. if you doubt you won’t get better with women & dating, you won’t. you brain is unbelievably powerful and your thoughts shape your life. Never underestimate the power of believing in yourself. Never underestimate your ability to get what you want in life. Self doubt will sabotage you & keep you from succeeding every single time.
- Unphased by failure: Bad boys know that not doubting themselves doesn’t mean they will never fail, there will be chances that might not get the success they want but they will be able to get back up faster than anyone else could. But taking this first step without doubting & with full confidence is what you have to do.. there could be many reasons that the process didn’t complete, You have not fail.. You succeeded in taking the step but it’s some external reason why the process couldn’t succeed. “failure” is a man made thing & its not real. There is no such thing called failure. When bad boys approach a girl & if she is not interested, its not a failure, she was just not interested (external reason), find a different approach. Erase the word called – FAILURE. Every time you could not complete the process & failed.. you have not failed, you have learned a lesson & not failed.
- Don’t fear: Bad boys don’t fear while many of nice guys live their whole life full of fear & think “kaash mai bhi agar apne fear ko kam kar paata toh mai vo life jeeta jo mai jeena chahta hu” don’t be that nice guy, women knows when you are uncomfortable around them, so be fearless & approach as many as you can, it will overcome you fear. If you fear of women rejecting you & making a joke of you in front of all the people, THAT’S not gonna happen As long as it is a friendly approach. Take that risk of rejection, Its very arousing to women. Bad boys are not afraid of talking to her, taking her phone number, ask her out, touch her, kiss her.. the fear doesn’t exists. Experience teaches us that approaching a women is never going to hurt. Whatever you have to do to get over your fear of women do it.. approaching 10 women & getting rejected 10 times, do it!! Eventually, once you have enough experience, you will notice this fear is gone & what left is confidence & self belief.
Differentiate between Real & Unreal fear as per “Sandeep maheshwari”
PART 3 – Bad Boy Coolness
- Effortlessly cool :