Love may be the most compelling mystery of the mind science will ever tackle.
“How on earth are you ever going to explain in terms of chemistry and physics so important a biological phenomenon as first” – Albert Einstein
Einstein was correct.. Science can never explain the wonderment of love clinically but I think he would also agree that its a mistake to confuse increased understanding with less meaning.
No matter what we learn about love, It will continue to be one of the most meaningful & powerful forces on the planet and will remain “Unknown”
I want to share something I have learned so far about “LOVE” (being in love) after reading so many articles, books and dealing with many of my friends..
- Love is addictive
Indeed.. (biologically) what i have learned in my school is when we continuously think about something (about someone beloved), we induce an activity into brain which releases a flood. The so called “pleasure chemical” & this gives the lover a high effect of narcotics which is never the less most addictive !!
at the same time the brain (in love) experience an increase in “Stress” hormone.. which increases the heart rate & we tend to use medicines fr several “Indirect” reasons which we don’t realize like sleeping pills, headache relief, Alcohol & smoke (most commonly used)
- Love is obsessive
The brain love experiences a drop in Neutro-transmitter cell in our body which provides a sense of being in control. It guards against the anxiety of uncertainty & instability and when it drops, our sense of control decreases and we attached obsessively on things that cause our certainty and since love is by definition “Unpredictable” It is a prime target for obsession. The term “crazy in love” isn’t far off the truth.
- Love is liable to “Recklessness” (fearless)
When we loose the sense of being in control, Our brain’s reasoning, command & control center drops low and at the same time brain’s response system also goes down. The combination of these effects is a willingness to take more risks.
- “Love” & “Lust” can co exist in the brain (and not necessarily for the same person)
Love & Lust appear to be the separate but our brain generates almost the same kind of responses. They both produce a “high”, They are both “addictive”and They effect many of the same parts of brain but they can easily be identified whether you are in love or just lust.
- “Men” in love are extremely visualize..
The brains of men in love shows greater activity in the visual cortex then of women in love that’s why men are more “visually” and more “creatively” romantic.
- Woman in love remember the details.
The brain of women in love shows greater activity in the other part of brain which is associated with memory. Woman can always “forgive” but can never “forget”
- Eye contact is a lover’s magic
New born babies and lover’s have this in common, More then anything, Eye contact is the fastest means to build emotional connection and when combines with “Smile” it creates wonders. Only “Vocal Interaction” comes anywhere close to eye contact but still few seconds behind eye contact.
- Women & men can be just friends (at least women think they do)
Men really don’t get the phenomenon of “friendship” when it comes to be with a girl and they are far more likely to want more then just friendship. Women are always been a good manager & they are able to separate the friendship & love in there minds.
At the end.. I Just want to say that “Love” is so beautiful, So wonderful, A tender look which becomes habit.